This is something my principal sent to us about rudeness from the Love and Logic Institute with Dr. Charles Fay. I am personally finding that there is an increase in rudeness in our society with children not being taught the simple manners of "please" and "thank you"... let alone any others.
I saw a child in the library the other day that was talking to his parent or guardian as if they were an idiot. The child was around Wesley and Mikayla's age. It made my skin crawl to hear such condescending tones come from someone so young. Of course, the tones the parent/guardian were giving back to the child were also condescending so you only repeat what you have been taught! The Lord gave me such a reminder to make sure mine and Steve's job as parents is to raise Wesley and Mikayla up to be pleasing to the Lord in all ways.
Here is the excerpt from the article that we were sent:
Remember that it's okay to be old-fashioned. There was a time in our country when parents expected their children to say "please" and "thank you." There was a time when they had to ask, "May I please be excused," before they left the dinner table. There was even a time when most youngsters were not allowed to interrupt conversations between adults, were expected to hold doors open for adults, and believed that adults went first. (I believe all of this is due to the catering of children by parents. Whatever the child says or wants goes....)
I saw a child in the library the other day that was talking to his parent or guardian as if they were an idiot. The child was around Wesley and Mikayla's age. It made my skin crawl to hear such condescending tones come from someone so young. Of course, the tones the parent/guardian were giving back to the child were also condescending so you only repeat what you have been taught! The Lord gave me such a reminder to make sure mine and Steve's job as parents is to raise Wesley and Mikayla up to be pleasing to the Lord in all ways.
Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers (and mothers!), provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Here is the excerpt from the article that we were sent:
Remember that it's okay to be old-fashioned. There was a time in our country when parents expected their children to say "please" and "thank you." There was a time when they had to ask, "May I please be excused," before they left the dinner table. There was even a time when most youngsters were not allowed to interrupt conversations between adults, were expected to hold doors open for adults, and believed that adults went first. (I believe all of this is due to the catering of children by parents. Whatever the child says or wants goes....)
Limit television viewing in your home.
Television has pretty much ruined our society. (How's that for blatant political incorrectness?)
Television has pretty much ruined our society. (How's that for blatant political incorrectness?)
Model a humble attitude.
Too frequently, kids in our society grow up around people who are far more interested in winning than serving others. Parents who model humility, respect and politeness toward others are far more likely to raise kids who do the same.
Place character over achievement.
Many kids are allowed to slide in the area of politeness because they are viewed as so incredibly gifted by their parents and other adults in their lives. Wise parents remember that the world is filled with incredibly talented people who've failed miserably because they are jerks. (Amen, and AMEN.)
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Our girls have been taught to call adults by their formal name. Mr. ____ or Mrs.____. In our environment it is very natural. I have actually heard adults ask them not to call them by their last name, it makes the adult uncomfortable. It also makes my girls uncomfortable to call adults by their first names!
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